I don't have advice. I have this instead: Precautions are not very useful against the determined. This is why we lock our car doors--because you do not want be prey for those who are randomly trying doors, looking for something to steal--but why we know door-locking is not useful for the skilled thief who says, "There. That car right there. That's the one I want." Similarly, asking for "netiquette" is just not going to apply for protection against the determined stalker.
The point I want to make is this: none of it is your fault. None of it is because you failed to follow netiquette, or take the right precautions against stalkers. Again, IT IS NOT YOUR FAULT. If you've been singled out, there is no point in having anyone say, "Oh, you should have shredded your credit card statements/not carried your Social Security statements in your wallet/not used your real name in your email." Stalkers can get around all that no matter what precautions you take, and thinking that you could have prevented it if you'd only "followed more rules" is like saying a woman wearing a belly shirt was asking to be raped.
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The point I want to make is this: none of it is your fault. None of it is because you failed to follow netiquette, or take the right precautions against stalkers. Again, IT IS NOT YOUR FAULT. If you've been singled out, there is no point in having anyone say, "Oh, you should have shredded your credit card statements/not carried your Social Security statements in your wallet/not used your real name in your email." Stalkers can get around all that no matter what precautions you take, and thinking that you could have prevented it if you'd only "followed more rules" is like saying a woman wearing a belly shirt was asking to be raped.
It's not your fault.